Scissor SisterJake Shears will be featured on the cover of the coming issue of BUTT, the quarterly gay journal which is equal parts raunch and literary interviews. This time it’s by the fabulous designer/photographer Hedi Slimane. This fall issue – no. 24 – will be out late August. With loads of contributions by BUTT readers and interviews with Jake Shears from New York, Rosa von Praunheim from Berlin, Will Munro from Toronto and ‘Your Big Dick Host’ from Brooklyn.
So your partner had a rough day and you want to help him relax and release some of his/her tension. What he/she needs is a good massage. By you giving one does not only suits his/her needs, but also allow you to be more intimate as a couple. Massage has been said to be a dance of love with your fingertips. Given correctly it can be one of the most intensly sensual moments you can share with your partner. And not surprisely, the skin is the largest sensory organ in the body! Here are some tips:
First, have your partner lie down on their stomach. You want to start by give them a simple back rub or a head massage. This will get you and your partner into communication with each other as well as let your partner get used to your touch. When your partner is used to your touch, stradle your partner’s body (a leg on each side) and begin to let your fingers stroke lightly, starting from the neck down. Each stroke should begin from the spine and roll off the sides of your partner’s body. Remember that continous movement is the key. Always try to keep even pressure between each hand.
When you place or remove your hands, use a glide on, glide off style of touching. Glide on in the direction your hands will be moving on or off the body. Maintain a continuous flow while massaging. Make your movements blend together, each one enhancing the preceding one and preparing for the next. Your strokes should be fluid, never jerky. Always take your hands around or out of the body rather then stopping in mid-flow.
If you wish, you may also use lotion, or essence oil to help with the massage. Having soothing music is always a great idea.
Below is a video clip on how to give a Swedish Massage (Level 1 for beginners!) by North Carolina School of Natural Healing: